tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88847449818449001092024-03-05T00:18:29.696-06:00Thinking Out LoudMy thoughts as a Christian woman in a day to day world.Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.comBlogger1296125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-60600144979877862612023-11-12T13:57:00.000-06:002023-11-12T13:57:37.030-06:00My Love For Church<p> About 2 years ago, I started attending a new church. It was new for me, because I had attended the same church for almost 24 years at the time. It was new for the church, because...well...it was a new church that had opened about 9 months before I started attending. Over the last 2 years, I'll admit that I have not always gone in person on Sundays for various reasons. If I did not attend, I would spend my Monday conference period at school listening to the sermon while I worked. Church has been the start of my week for over 20 years. I fell in love with the pastors, Joy and Elizabeth, and the heart of the church. It was the first time I had been in church in over a decade where I felt 100% accepted and loved. There was no pettiness or hidden agenda, there was LOVE. I will admit that I did not serve on any committees or behind the scenes at this church, because of the ugliness I had encountered previously. I wanted a space that was pure, and although I know that no church is pure; this one felt that way to me. Today they closed the doors on that space for the last time, and although I am so incredibly sad and disappointed; I am extremely grateful. I met two of the most incredible leaders I have ever known. They are two of the wisest people I've ever had the pleasure of meeting, who share themselves and their calling better than just about anyone I have ever met. The only other teacher who helped me connect with God as well was my pastor, Ken Diehm. Church has been a hard place for me for many years. For a long time, it was my favorite place to be. Then for a long time, it was not. Over the last 2 years, it had once again become a place I longed for and looked forward to. I know a building is not necessary to worship and feel connection, but I am a person who likes being physically in a community of people to worship and feel connected. Some of my best friends and my kids' best friends have come from attending church. I'm not sure where I'll be next Sunday or the next or the one after that, but I know I will hold onto the welcome space this church brought me after so many years of feeling out of place. Thank you Uptown Church, Joy and Elizabeth...because of you I fell in love with church again. </p><p>Well Done, Good And Faithful Servant!</p><p>Matthew 25:23</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-3906657882127167492023-09-26T12:24:00.003-05:002023-09-26T12:27:02.354-05:00Priorities<p> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "bookman old style", "new york", times, serif; font-size: 24px;">Last night while I was getting ready to walk, I was thinking about how much I did not want to be getting ready to walk. I'm tired and busy and unmotivated, but then I walked anyway. While I was walking, I was thinking about how we spend our time, money, resources, etc. Aside from absolute obligations, like work/school/caregiving, the way we spend our spare/extra time is completely up to us. And what a gift that is! Many of us will say things like, "I'm too busy to help with ????" or "I don't have the money to do ????" or "I can't attend that ?????" when in reality we aren't, do, and can; but we choose to do something else. I've learned that how, what and when we spend our time and money on (besides the musts) are the things that are priorities to us. If you tithe, that's a priority. If you don't, it's not. If you volunteer for something, it's a priority. If you don't, it's not. If you attend that optional meeting, it's a priority to you. If you don't, it's not. If you go to the party, it's a priority to you. If you don't, it's not. And then there are the times when you have to choose between two things, and the one you choose most likely is the priority. Life is a series of choices, and we unknowingly or knowingly prioritize our choices by what is important to us. It's okay to say no to things (this took me a long time to figure out), and sometimes we say yes to things purely because they are important to someone that we care about which prioritizes ourselves and someone we love (both very important). We are often faced with a choice of 2 or more things that are both important, and then we have to make a difficult decision of which to choose. Priorities may change over time as well. For instance, last night I was walking and sweating and wishing I was not, but exercise is more of a priority to me at this time in my life; so I made the choice to do it. Twenty years ago, exercise was not a priority for me; so I made the choice not to do it. Most of us are fortunate enough to be able to make life choices for ourselves. Sometimes they are not our first choice, but they are a priority.</span></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-34121900591725935742023-09-26T12:21:00.003-05:002023-09-26T12:21:56.568-05:00The Little Things<p> Something I've learned over the last few years: there are "little" things in your life that are important to you that might not be important to other people. Things that are not that "little" to you but seem so to others. Maybe you need your bed made every day, because it helps set the tone for your day or unclutter your mind. Maybe you need quiet time every morning to help you get grounded. Maybe you need encouragement from your team at work to validate and confirm that you are on the right track. Maybe you need a few days to process information, so that you can utilize it in the most appropriate way for the situation. Maybe you need to vent a whole lot before you react to something. Whatever it may be, there are things. I have a lot of little things that impact me...most have to do with all kinds of clutter: clutter of the mind, space, senses, etc. I have always liked organization, but I have lived with clutter for a long time without seemingly being phased. I didn't love it, but it did not impact my overall mental and physical health the way it does now. Many years ago, I had a serious head trauma and years later a series of mini strokes and a TIA. After the last bout, I realized that I am extremely ADD. I don't remember being ADD in my younger years and my neurologist confirmed that it definitely could have onset after the strokes. With this onset of ADD, it has made things much more difficult than I could have ever imagined. My brain is tired a lot. It works extra hard, and it is exhausting for my body and spirit as well. It has taken me a few years to develop some successful coping mechanisms on my own. But I also need the assistance of others in circumstances where we cohabitate together: work, home, etc. A suggestion I have is to let your people know how these "little" things impact you both negatively and positively and tell them WHY. If they know why, they will have understand and respect the importance; because remember these things may hold little value if any to them. If they know why and don't respect the importance, you may have a bigger issue. But if you don't tell them, you are not giving them the opportunity to understand. Communication is key!</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-72769572787989795502023-04-24T20:21:00.005-05:002023-04-24T21:13:03.079-05:00CONTROL<p>It's local election time around here which stirs up all the things. Local election time used to be cool, but now it's not. In particular our school board election used to be exciting, now it's terrifying. What was once an amicable race has turned into political chaos. It doesn't seem to be focused on the good of the students, teachers, tax payers but focused on control. When I started teaching in a public high school 5 years ago, it was a huge eye opener. Some of the things kids deal with are harder than things I have ever dealt with in my 56 years of life. What I wish would happen is that all of the board members would spend one full week in my school, all day for 5 days. I wish they would spend time in all levels of classes, from AP to resource. I wish they would sit with some of my students and listen to their stories. I wish they would know them like I do and see the repercussions from decisions being made. I wish they would experience the sadness when they hear their struggles and the joy when they get to be part of their successes. I wish they would see that we are diverse and come from many places, and that we don't all fit in the same few boxes. The different points of view, backgrounds, stories of others is part of learning and growing and what makes the world beautiful. I hope our community can embrace it instead of trying to control it. The only thing that should be controlled is your own behavior and actions. You cannot control other people's actions, you can only control your reactions. </p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-26707526998467166722023-04-24T18:56:00.003-05:002023-04-24T18:56:43.505-05:00Pavlova!<p> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "bookman old style", "new york", times, serif; font-size: 24px;">I recently went on a food adventure with one of my lifelong friends. Kelli and I both LOVE baking shows, especially The Great British Baking Show. She's crushing on Noel, and I'm crushing on Paul Hollywood. After last season, we decided we needed to experience the deliciousness of a Pavlova. I had never had one, and I don't think she had either. I contemplated, very briefly, attempting to make one but quickly decided against it; so the search was on. We discovered a restaurant just a hop, skip and jump away and off we went. The Aussie Grind serves an aussie style breakfast or lunch. We planned our trip, so we could choose between the two depending on the time of day; although I'm not one to be conformed to certain types of food at certain times of the day. Breakfast and lunch are both served all day. It is a quaint little place, and we were greeted by the friendliest hostess who was, in fact, Australian....BONUS POINTS! We decided to split an entree and a few desserts, including the Pavlova. They also have many delicious beverages, including boozy ones, to choose from. Kelli gave me full reign of the menu, so I ordered the Avo Mash for us to share. It came with two pieces of avocado toast served on hippie loaf with cherry tomatoes, charred corn, pickled onion, danish feta, baby arugula, and beet whipped cream cheese. We each got to choose how we wanted our egg cooked that topped it. After the first bite, I knew that I would be visiting this place again. Kelli and I both decided that this might have been the best avocado toast that had ever graced our taste buds. For dessert, of course we ordered the Pav Smash which is made of smashed pavlova, fresh whipped cream, fresh berries and chocolate drizzle; and we also shared an Affogato. Now y'all know I have a huge sweet tooth and how I feel about coffee, so this Affogato was the icing on the cake or pavlova! </span><img alt="Emoji" class="ydpf099bf64yiv5436313329yahoo-emoji-wrapper" data-inlineimagemanipulating="true" height="16" src="https://ecp.yusercontent.com/mail?url=https%3A%2F%2Fs.yimg.com%2Fnq%2Fyemoji_assets%2Flatest%2Fyemoji_assets%2F1f602.png&t=1682380366&ymreqid=87298654-8ed1-9a63-1c00-500004016d00&sig=bCaUA2BSOrikuo08M7rIdg--~D" style="font-family: "bookman old style", "new york", times, serif; font-size: 24px; outline: currentcolor !important; padding: 0px 2px; vertical-align: middle;" title="Emoji" width="16" /><img alt="Emoji" class="ydpf099bf64yiv5436313329yahoo-emoji-wrapper" data-inlineimagemanipulating="true" height="16" src="https://ecp.yusercontent.com/mail?url=https%3A%2F%2Fs.yimg.com%2Fnq%2Fyemoji_assets%2Flatest%2Fyemoji_assets%2F1f61c.png&t=1682380366&ymreqid=87298654-8ed1-9a63-1c00-500004016d00&sig=WYbH6MX9Q2M5OsHYTXTIbA--~D" style="font-family: "bookman old style", "new york", times, serif; font-size: 24px; outline: currentcolor !important; padding: 0px 2px; vertical-align: middle;" title="Emoji" width="16" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "bookman old style", "new york", times, serif; font-size: 24px;">. I have thought about that meal several times, because the food was amazing, but also because of the conversations shared with one of my dearest friends. Kelli told me that one of her goals for 2023 was to say "yes", and that is one of mine as well. Apparently I'm middle aged now, who knew, and I am going to enjoy as much of what's left of my life as I possibly can. I plan to do things I've been wanting to do for my whole life as well as things I enjoy doing regularly. I'm going to France this summer, getting the good concert tickets, wearing what I want, caring for my mind and body. With that being said, I am saying "no" to some things as well...overcommitting to things I don't want to do, relationships that need to end, a cluttered space and a cluttered mind. The more I've thought about our conversations that day, the more I've realized that it has been a very very long time since I have chosen me, for the pure sake of choosing me. The time is now, because some of the truest words ever spoken are "We aren't promised tomorrow".</span></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-81329980469379574482023-03-15T00:58:00.001-05:002023-03-15T00:58:46.309-05:00THREE YEARS!<p> Three years ago this week, the world started to shut down. I am still in complete awe thinking about the entire world being affected so immensely by the same thing. There are so many places I will never visit and have not even heard of which were affected. Throughout history, many people in different parts of the world are affected by similar or the same things while others are not affected at all. This was a time when we were all affected by the same thing. It sill baffles my mind. I've thought a lot about the pandemic over the last few months as I reflect on things that changed as a result, both positive and negative. </p><p>I have thought more lately about the positive changes that came from that time, and I sometimes wonder why it took a pandemic for us to think of these things. These are a few things that have been a positive in my opinion: </p><p>1. Required appointments at the DMV.</p><p>2. All the curbside pick ups and deliveries at all the stores, including liquor, which I don't utilize but still a good idea. Get your margaritas and drink at home instead of driving after.</p><p>3. Webex/Zoom/etc. meetings. While I believe some meetings are necessary in person, I think having the ability to meet over Webex/Zoom/etc. have made things much more convenient for so many.</p><p>4. Worshipping online. This wasn't necessarily an idea born out of the pandemic, but I feel like it encouraged and introduced many people to worship online. For me, who would have never done this prior, I have found many different worship experiences that I can listen to, watch, participate in online. My church experience had become quite stagnant and unfulfilling which I know is partly my frame of mind. During the pandemic, I not only visited different churches that were open in person, but I also began to listen to many. It has definitely refreshed my worship experience. </p><p>5. Exercising at home. This has always been hard for me as I am not the most motivated when it comes to exercise. Getting started is the hardest part for me. Once I get started, I start to feel better which in turn provides motivation. Another thing that has motivated me in the exercise department is money. If I'm paying for something, I tend to stick with it. However when everything was closed, I had to get creative. My exercise at home ebbs and flows, but I have found many great free programs on YouTube and other places to use.</p><p>6. Online tutorials and lessons. This has been exceptionally grand for my daughter who has a private tutor. Instead of using 45 minutes to an hour just for drive time, in addition to the hour tutorial, she now has her tutorial sessions in her bedroom and can refer back to the whiteboard notes her tutor uses for several weeks. This was the same for music lessons, although not ideal for her, they were able to continue.</p><p>7. Another thing that has been huge for me is online therapy sessions. I meet with a psychiatrist once a month for about 5 minutes, so she can check in on the sleep medication she prescribed. I don't have to drive somewhere for a 5 minute check in. I have also found a therapist, who I love, but she lives in the Panhandle. If it weren't for the pandemic, I would have never met her. She is the best and has been just what I needed.</p><p>For the most part, I do think interacting with people in person is always the best; but there are times when that can't happen or when it makes more sense (out of convenience) to meet online. </p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-73975596572718191112023-01-03T14:47:00.007-06:002023-01-03T14:53:21.742-06:00To Resolution or Not to Resolution!<p><br /> Happy 2023!!! Here's to a new year!! Here's to you! Here's to me! I don't do resolutions, but instead I do "things to look forward to trying to do". My whole family does this practice as a tradition. In other words, it's by force....sort of 😂! I can't remember where I heard this suggestion, but I adopted it for my family and love it. Every year at the beginning of the new year, we each write personal "things to look forward to trying to do" or wishes or dreams or whatever you wanna call them on a small piece of paper and put it in our Christmas stockings without sharing it with anyone else. On Christmas of that same year, so nearly a full year later, we open them up and read them aloud to each other. So in reality, any of us could make them into resolutions if they choose. Mine are not resolutions. I gave up resolutions years ago, because I discovered that my resolutions were bringing me down instead of lifting me up. They were not set in joy but set in frustration or fear. My best friend told me that someone told her you create your vision board out of love, not out of disdain or doubt or sadness. After thinking about this, I realized that this is what we do each year on those little pieces of paper. We write down things we dream about doing or aspire to do. Mine are always written with a posture of love and joy, and I hope my family's are as well. When I read my list from last year, I was pretty happy about being able to do many of the "things I looked forward to trying to do", because they are things that I knew I would enjoy. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgWBKCgqsoIoNshv_qxcRG0hRQKUlaJM33z72oo4AK_S2BHiHG8vM-hW1aGXzxW85UC92yF3b16cWjx3gi_xPVwUqb2T1g97Mt0jl_0U3hjGoFH-4p-ebmVB7aWfb8SwIAB2rMmuqqRd019eMqjzpNOUM90Q7SxhAUA2TESGtxM1HAEoSjJxWvbZlMf/s640/IMG_1647.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="480" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgWBKCgqsoIoNshv_qxcRG0hRQKUlaJM33z72oo4AK_S2BHiHG8vM-hW1aGXzxW85UC92yF3b16cWjx3gi_xPVwUqb2T1g97Mt0jl_0U3hjGoFH-4p-ebmVB7aWfb8SwIAB2rMmuqqRd019eMqjzpNOUM90Q7SxhAUA2TESGtxM1HAEoSjJxWvbZlMf/s320/IMG_1647.jpg" width="240" /></a></div><p></p><p> Here is my list: </p><p>Write more!</p><p>Read More!</p><p>Learn how to make cream puffs!</p><p>Exercise regularly!</p><p>Save $!</p><p>Go on adventures!</p><p>Go on a family trip!</p><p>Live music!</p><p>So if you do resolutions, you do you, but maybe think about the posture and attitude in which you plan for 2023!! </p><p>Do everything in love! 1 Corinthians 16:14</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-73695434487352497002022-10-18T14:20:00.003-05:002022-10-18T14:22:59.514-05:00Choose To Be Happy<p> When you are plagued by depression, sometimes the sadness is so overwhelming that it seems you will never escape it. And if you do make your way out, you may still not feel happiness. In fact, indifference may be as good as it gets. Sometimes in the thick of sadness, you wonder if you've ever been happy at all. But then you remember that you have, it just seems like another lifetime and just out of your grasp. </p><div data-setdir="false" dir="ltr">Happiness is not something you can "choose" over sadness. It is oftentimes not obtainable, no matter how good things are going for you, how good your life is, or how much you are loved. It's not possible. If it were possible, it seems those suffering overwhelming sadness would certainly "choose to be happy", wouldn't they?</div><div data-setdir="false" dir="ltr">Telling someone to "choose to be grateful" or "choose to be happy" or "choose to look at the positives" is not encouraging and absolutely not helpful to a person who is not in the mindset to do so....it is in fact discouraging and hurtful. It can make them feel inadequate, unheard and stupid. </div><div data-setdir="false" dir="ltr">When you are supporting someone with depression or many other mental health illnesses, sometimes you just listen. You may not understand their suffering, but even if you do; you just listen. By listening, they know that you are not here to minimalize their pain, dismiss their sadness, or provide quick fixes for them; but you are here and they are heard.</div><div data-setdir="false" dir="ltr"><br /></div><div data-setdir="false" dir="ltr"><b><i><span style="color: #073763;">After listening to a group of students, who are or have been, moderately and/or severely depressed; the above is what I gleaned from their conversations.</span></i></b></div><div><br /></div><div class="ydpdcf9a94bsignature"><div style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><br style="background-color: white;" /></div></div>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-87909179155256347802022-10-13T20:09:00.006-05:002022-10-13T20:09:47.664-05:00Neil and Don and The Braves<p> Last night Cal had a baseball game. He plays for the Braves through The Miracle League which is a league designed for people of all ages and genders with special needs. He has played for several years, and we all love it. For the last few years, Neil has been the coach. For the Fall season, they were planning on splitting up the Braves due to lack of enrollment which made us sad. The majority of our team has been together from the beginning, and transitioning to a different team might have been confusing for some. Neil had heard from a few of the OG parents that they weren't sure if their child would play if they weren't on the Braves, because they might not understand the change. At the last minute, they had some additional enrollees, so they added a few new players and kept the Braves together. CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES, COME ON!! And our players were thrilled. A lot of that has to do with their teammates but much of it has to do with Neil. When Cal started playing, he had an amazing coach and "team mom", who wasn't actually anyone's mom; but the young coaches soon to be wife. After several seasons, they stepped down; and Neil stepped in. Neil had been helping out for a while, so although there was an adjustment for the players; it didn't take long until they realized Neil was the new coach. On the way home from the game last night, he was telling me a story about one of the original players, who has Downs Syndrome. We will call him Don for privacy sake. This particular player used to get really irritated with himself if he couldn't hit the ball in a timely manner which resulted in bringing in the tee. Over the last few years, he has learned to have a little more patience with himself and is much more successful in hitting the ball and hitting it well. He and Neil have a really great relationship, and they kid around with each other every game. One thing Neil does every game, that I did not know about until last night, is he tells Don that he hit the ball so hard he knocked some of the skin off. And although Don knows Neil is a jokester, he believes this to be completely true. At the end of every game, Neil digs around in the tub of balls until he finds one with split skin and ripped stitching and waits for Don to ask for it (which he does). And at the end of every game, Neil gives Don the ball and tells him that's the ball...the one you knocked the skin off of!! As I watched Neil cutting up with Don last night and kneeling down on one knee up real close to one batter, who has severe vision problems, so he could see the ball being pitched and encouraging and cheering for his team; something dawned on me. It was not a new realization for me, but more of an absolute confirmation; and it is this: Neil has a gift that I and so many have been so fortunate to receive. It is the way he accepts and loves people. It's legit!!! My son has taught me about the meaning of life more than anyone I know, but last night it was confirmed that I still might not have learned what I have if Neil had not been his dad; because he helps me view it through his eyes and action and heart. How great is that!!</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-35709146781411456902022-10-06T13:06:00.002-05:002022-10-06T13:06:55.577-05:00JIMMY<p> One of my friends shared this<a href="https://www.mariashriversundaypaper.com/the-power-of-one-person/" target="_blank"> story</a> with me this past weekend. It reminded me of my daughter, Bryna, who turned 19 last week. She shares "Jimmy's superpower", and although that is quite a legacy and amazing quality to have; it can also be really really hard sometimes. </p><p><span style="background-color: white; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 21px;">"Jimmy’s superpower is recognizing something amazing and unique in every person. His mission is to help people see the sacredness within themselves and to help people feel loved, cared for, and special. Once he makes a new friend, he goes about introducing one friend to another to another to another. He also has a rule that if you say a negative thing about a friend, you must follow it up with three nice things. Remember that: three things."</span></p><p>Being the one who many count on, the one who listens, gives of themselves fully is like giving a piece of yourself every day. Then one day you find yourself running out of pieces, because your pieces are not being replenished. Some people are not able to help you replenish your pieces, and that's okay. If you are one who is, just make sure to check on your "Jimmys".</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-77022564380917666852022-10-04T18:15:00.014-05:002022-10-05T08:43:21.724-05:00CHANGES<p> It's finally Fall which makes my heart sing. Although I don't particularly like change, I love the changing of seasons. I think that's because I'm a middle of the road kinda gal. I don't really like extreme anything and especially not for too long. It would suck the soul right out of me if I had to live somewhere where the weather was the exact same ALL THE TIME! With the change in seasons, I always get the urge to clean house literally. This year I have also done some cleaning spiritually, emotionally and physically. After a long time of feeling stuck, I have started to pursue Jesus in a new way. I have done some deep soul searching, and I have gotten back on track with my health (mentally and physically). Therapy is not for the weak (actually it is), but it does make you strong. I don't usually "unfriend" people on social media, because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make them mad (even if they don't really like me); but I have decided that my feelings need to come first right now. If you don't really like me or have my back, you don't need to know my business....seems fair to me. Someone told me once, "it's none of your business what people think of you", and although that is hard on insecurities; it is such truth. If you're my friend and hold space for our relationship, thank you! You mean the world to me! </p><p>After a while of trudging along in life, I'm once again starting to enjoy it.</p><p>So if you're stuck in the pit or the trenches, hold tight! Keep going! You got this! I love you! You'll get there!! And all the other cheesy but truthful sayings! </p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-33630195339337919192022-08-28T18:19:00.003-05:002022-08-28T18:22:20.619-05:00DISCONTENT<p> Discontent!! Our pastor spoke of this today in her sermon. I have been dealing with discontentment for many many years, although probably not in the way most would think. For many people, a feeling of discontentment comes from not being satisfied with their status or possessions as in wanting more. For many, it comes from not being satisfied with their circumstances or situation again as in wanting more. For me, it comes from not being satisfied with all of those things; but again maybe not in the way that most would think. About 8 years ago, I started feeling discontent. After clearly hearing God tell me we needed to make some changes, I did a lot of soul searching. However when God only speaks to you, it is oftentimes difficult to convince others. </p><p>For a good part of our lives, my family has lived paycheck to paycheck, mostly by choice but sometimes due to circumstances. Neil and I made the decision I would go from full time work to part-time when we had a baby. We made the decision I would stay home with our kids, the years I stayed home. We chose to have 5 children (albeit that caboose was a surprise 😜). However we didn't choose to have a child who needed so much extra care and attention, and we didn't choose for Neil to be limited in his job options. But even with the things we didn't choose, I wouldn't change those years for anything. We were always extremely conscientious about gifts our children received from us and from others. From early ages, our kids didn't accept gifts for their birthdays but instead accepted donations to something that was close to their hearts. From early ages, our kids didn't have dozens of Christmas gifts, but only 3 each just like the Wisemen laid at the feet of Jesus. I realized that even though we were living paycheck to paycheck and very conscientious of things our kids received, we still had a lot of stuff. </p><p>As the years have passed, and money is more plentiful; I have become more discontent with the way we live our lives, the way we spend our money, the way things own us instead of us owing them. The expense of taking care of a house, a job that causes my husband a lot of stress and time, and a community that is becoming less and less of where I want to be has multiplied my discontentment tenfold. Years ago when I heard God clearly tell me to make some changes, I wasn't sure what He meant; but now I know. Simplify your lives physically and mentally. Spend more time living and less time surviving. We are fortunate enough to have the opportunities where that is possible, so why aren't we doing it? Why aren't we taking more walks, reading more books, sitting by the lake? Why aren't we taking more road trips, adventures, and giving more of our time to things we believe in? </p><p>Discontentment doesn't always come from wanting more but sometimes it comes from needing less. </p><p><br /></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-15807249651041657712022-08-21T11:01:00.003-05:002022-08-21T11:05:10.440-05:00Grieving The World<p> Oh hey,</p><p>It's been a minute since I've blogged, but don't you fret; I have been writing, just not publicly. I have had many many thoughts to share, but I have not had the energy to share. The world has beaten me down, and getting through most days has been hard. I'm also the type of writer, who writes in the moment, so if I'm at work or driving or grocery shopping (completely using this for an example, because I don't actually grocery shop) when inspiration hits me; then I don't write it...it just stays in my thoughts...mulling over and over and doing all the overthinking. This morning I had the strong urge to write here, so here we go....</p><p>I read something recently that said, "You may not be depressed, you may be grieving the world." Being an empath, I felt that to my core. I have contemplated this thought hundreds of times since I read it a few weeks ago, and I've also come to realize that grieving the world can cause depression. Over the last few years many things have changed. Some as the result of the pandemic, some as the result of people's choices, some as the result of day to day life. I know that I am grieving the world. </p><p>My family and I no longer attend church together regularly.</p><p>My best friend is in deep despair.</p><p>My community is becoming more and more intolerant, prejudice and exclusive.</p><p>My #4 moved away to college.</p><p>My precious JosieFina pup crossed the rainbow bridge.</p><p>My health is not the best.</p><p>My world and everything around me feels unsafe.</p><p>My job is very very hard.</p><p>I am afraid.</p><p>Happiness has been hard to find, but the innate joy that comes from knowing my future is still there.</p><p>Psalm 28:6-7</p><p>Praise be to the <span class="small-caps" style="font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-caps: small-caps; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal;">Lord</span>,<br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="font-family: monospace; font-size: 0.42em; line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Ps-28-6" style="position: relative;">for he has heard my cry for mercy.<br /><span class="text Ps-28-7" id="en-NIV-14307" style="position: relative;"><span class="versenum" face="system-ui, -apple-system, "Segoe UI", Roboto, Ubuntu, Cantarell, "Noto Sans", sans-serif, Arial" style="display: inline; font-size: 1.2rem; font-weight: 700; left: -4.4em; line-height: normal; position: absolute; top: auto; vertical-align: text-top;">7 </span>The <span class="small-caps" style="font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-caps: small-caps; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal;">Lord</span> is my strength and my shield;</span><br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="font-family: monospace; font-size: 0.42em; line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Ps-28-7" style="position: relative;">my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.</span></span><br /><span class="text Ps-28-7" style="position: relative;">My heart leaps for joy,<br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="font-family: monospace; font-size: 0.42em; line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Ps-28-7" style="position: relative;">and with my song I praise him.</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-1011360591365603622021-06-04T20:15:00.001-05:002021-06-10T20:18:24.410-05:00The Gift Of Life<p> <span style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">35 years ago today, I was driving from one summer job to another on 635 in my mom's Cadillac. It was raining, and the last thing I remember was a car in front of me swerving. It was a Corvette. </span></p><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">I woke up to someone pulling on my arm, a bright light and PAIN! When I opened my eyes, I saw a lot of glass and a lot of blood. I could faintly hear someone calling to me, and in a foggy haze; the light turned into a firefighter. The first thought that entered my mind was "THANK YOU JESUS FOR SPARING MY LIFE!" The second thought was "I hope nobody is dead". </div><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">A cement truck had plowed into the back of my mom's Cadillac pushing me into the car in front, through 3 lanes of traffic and into the median wall. There were 10 cars involved in this accident. </div><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">As I was being wheeled into the ER, my mom was there. I remember wondering how she got there so fast, but it actually took a while for me to arrive at the hospital. She was walking beside the gurney, and the first thing I said to her was "Did I kill anyone? Was it my fault? I'm so so sorry about your car." She reassured me that it was not my fault and nobody had died. I was the one with the most injuries. I had severe head trauma but was very lucid, and I remember thinking things could have turned out very different. </div><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">There were a lot of stitches....a lot....and a lot of recovery. My body has not been the same since that day. There were a lot of facial gashes and injuries, head trauma, glass removal, dislocated shoulder. My nose was sliced completely in two (I'll spare you the photos), and there is a piece above my right nostril that is still missing resulting in two different shaped nostrils. </div><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">I slept on the couch for months, so I didn’t have to get up the stairs. One night I remember waking up in the middle of the night and seeing my dad sitting at my feet. He was crying softly, and again I just felt so thankful that my life was spared. Things could have turned out so different.</div><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">It took almost a year before I was finished with physical therapy and surgeries, and recovery was hard; but I was so GRATEFUL!! That day changed my perspective. I don’t know if I really appreciated the gift of life until that day. I don't think God causes bad things to happen, but I think there is an opportunity to see light and glean goodness. I’ve seen this through my own loss but also other people’s loss. </div><div dir="auto" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">I've been praying for a family for a long time with a precious little girl, named Indy Llew. She has Down Syndrome and also cancer. That little lady is a bright bright light in the world while suffering most of her little life, but you wouldn’t know it. She is pure joy! Her parents have shared her story asking for prayer but also because she is changing the world. Through her, God has worked some amazing miracles in people's hearts. Today Indy passed, and my heart has been so so sad for us all. I cannot imagine the pain her family feels. I kept thinking about how things could have turned out different for her too. I don’t know why some people survive and some don’t. What I know is that time is a gift....make the most of it. 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My mental health, the mental health of many I love, overall health, work, finances, church, missing people, all of it has been hard. I've felt like a fish out of water floundering around for the last few years, not sure where I belong or fit in, but this past several months have felt like I'm gasping for air and further away from finding solid ground or a fish tank, ocean, lake, etc. I have not been sure how to move forward or how to move at all. At the beginning of 2021, by many things I read and heard, expectations were high for a more "normal" year. To be honest, that did not provide comfort for me but more anxiety. I have never dealt with anxiety like I have over the last year. Sure, I've had moments of anxiousness and some legitmiate moments of panic; but I have not dealt with this consistently until this 2021. This past Sunday was our first in person contemporary church service inside of our church in over a year. Our pastor delivered a very meaningful and impactful sermon regarding the topic of worry and anxiety. It spoke to me as I'm sure it did to many. Because The Bible tells us not to be anxious does not mean we automatically flip a switch and are feeling peaceful and calm. What this scripture does provide for many of us is hope and the truth that we are covered by the love of Jesus.
A few years ago, I decided to be intentional in reaching out to people when God laid them on my heart. I've done a fairly good job of sticking with that, but there are sometimes when I thought to myself...I'm not ready. But the more I opened my heart to Him, the more I realized that it wasn't about me being ready; but instead about being obedient. In 2021, I've reached out every single time God has led me to do so. I've had many wonderful responses of gratitude from people....some who I have not been in regular or any contact with in several years. Sometimes it was hard and uncomfortable, and sometimes it was easy and felt like second nature. But it has been a blessing every single time....no matter the response....because it was something I knew I was supposed to do. Something I've learned about myself is that freedom lies in obedience,even if it is hard and uncomfortable. I don't know what this year holds, but I know that Jesus is our hope! He is steadfast, and He walks with us through everything, even if we don't feel it. <div><br /></div><div><b> Matthew 6:34
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. </b></div><div><b>Phillipians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. </b></div><div><b>Matthew 6:25
“That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing?</b></div>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-92095881382060689072021-03-03T20:01:00.000-06:002021-03-13T20:01:55.345-06:00March 3rd! The Best Day of 1997!!
This is TWENTY FOUR!!! Happy Birthday Addison Jo! I adore you!
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It is also the middle of one of the worst winter storms Texas has seen. The roads are dangerous, and millions of households are without power. Due to these circumstances, our first in person church service since October, has been moved to virtual. As disappointed as I am, I completely understand why. Not only is it dangerous to drive, but we are being asked to conserve energy to help get power back to the millions who are without. We spent 45 hours over the last 2 days with no power...not even a flicker. Because we don't have gas stove, fireplace, etc.; our house was 28 degrees inside...which was a lot warmer than outside, but it sure didn't feel like it. We made the decision to vacate....it wasn't safe for us or our pets. We were so blessed to have many reach out and offer assistance: food, showers, hot drinks, groceries, generators and places to stay. We ended up at some friends' house, who live not far from us, but never lost power. We met them a few years ago, when Addi was nannying her twins. So although we know her and call her friend, Neil and I don't know her that well. We humbly and graciously accepted the invitation. She fed us, let us shower, provided each of us a bed to sleep in; and she let us bring our dogs. In a time such as this, it was a gift. I am overwhelmed with gratitude especially when there are people who have lost their lives and have no place to go.</p><p>Our power came on late last night, and we headed home this afternoon. I think she was going to open up her house to others who are doing without as soon as we left, and she made sure we knew we were welcome back to shower (we don't have hot water) or if the power went out again. I promised we would pay it forward. God took that promise very seriously, and on our way home; Addi received a message of a friend in need. A pipe broke leaving her house in 6 inches of water, while she is out of town, and her husband is home alone to try to figure out how to get all of their stuff out of the house in freezing temps and 3 feet of snow. Neil and Addi loaded up the water pump and headed over as soon as we got home. </p><p> Through the last 24 hours, I have been frustrated, frightened and angry. It is 2021 in one of the richest countries in the world, but people have died due to lack of electricity and preparation by our state. It makes no sense. However I have also felt deep to my core gratitude and witnessed the amazing beauty of service. God reminded me that we are not in control of much, but we can control our reactions. So earlier as I began to share an article, that pointed out all the ways our state has let us down during this time, I felt the nudge in the direction of gentleness instead. I do believe there needs to be some accountability for those who have suffered loss of life and property, and I will support them. However I don't think adding fuel to that fire will make it any better for them. I believe my role is to encourage, love and offer assistance in the best ways I can; as well as, continuing to pray for our state and country. It's been through a lot lately too. So yes Jesus, I hear you when you say we are not in control, we don't always understand why you allow things to happen, but we know the ultimate power comes from you.</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-3655694086985344102021-02-10T21:52:00.002-06:002021-02-10T21:52:20.476-06:00God At Work! <p> Do you feel unseen, invaluable, insignificant? Do people always seem to make plans that don't include you? Does it seem nobody notices when good things happen for you or bad things? Do people turn up the music or turn on the garbage disposal when you're on a zoom call? Do your dreams seem unimportant? Do your needs go unnoticed? Do your loved ones forget to tell you goodnight or goodbye or good morning? Do your co-workers turn out the light at the end of the day not noticing that you are still sitting at your desk? Do people tell you their goods and bads but walk away without asking about yours? Does it seem nobody has time for you?</p><p>I've been in a time of deep reflection and self care and something I've been working on is remembering that I am a treasure to Jesus. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night with the elephant of anxiety sitting fully on my chest, and I'm not sure why; but I think I'm figuring it out. I think God is at work telling me that He sees me, and I am important. I don't think God causes this anxiousness to happen, but He uses that time of unease to bring me to a place where I have to consciously force myself to regain peace. Sure I've been anxious from time to time in my life, but I've never experienced it like this. So when it happens, I get up, take some deep breaths, get a cool drink of water and remind myself that I am okay. I am okay. And then for the first time that I can ever remember after waking up in the middle of the night, I am able to fall soundly back to sleep. God at work! He is good! I am a treasure!</p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-88839676215114121222021-02-05T20:08:00.001-06:002021-02-07T20:12:14.622-06:00February 5th, the best day of 2001!<p><span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span>THIS IS TWENTY!!!! Happy Birthday to my Drewby Lou!!</p><p><span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> <span> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span>I adore you!</p><p><br /></p><p><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNnZbvg6TJYillgEnw28v5st9-JceMX1EBLFTByLugcX6DxEdCA7Y4a8focA3_eA6EcOd4S8tnqG4tkoaKNLDrt025hogR3iGWn6LQjU9IEvYpgKI3UJbbYT3HCT-SPntIjnrlXjuqaLk/s2048/IMG_9357.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1219" data-original-width="2048" height="381" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNnZbvg6TJYillgEnw28v5st9-JceMX1EBLFTByLugcX6DxEdCA7Y4a8focA3_eA6EcOd4S8tnqG4tkoaKNLDrt025hogR3iGWn6LQjU9IEvYpgKI3UJbbYT3HCT-SPntIjnrlXjuqaLk/w640-h381/IMG_9357.jpg" width="640" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; 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margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1638" data-original-width="1638" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwr2FXg4Xm1258dmHZ_bsbNdmMWSjq8hQEe2pOMwMfmagQkqvH600lUSan8Z7aWX-g9IStTCuzMLlrCxxUSBxV-OunTAWZ9dvTKC_t66pVsmmLpdaD1zs_8K6ZugxP07YZxoQ_vjNb59A/w640-h640/10911396_10205712785082831_947202592275316605_o.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /> Yesterday was Superman's Birthday. He's not usually big on birthdays, but he was a little more into it than usual. Birthdays are my favorite thing ever, because celebrating another year of life is a gift. The kids got him gifts, a cake, balloons and ice cream. The girls wrote him Happy Birthday posts on social media, and of course I did too. I'll admit that sometimes I envy him, because he is obviously their favorite. But I'm also really really grateful they treasure their dad as much as they do, because he is one to be treasured. <p></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-12885690700684340002020-12-03T20:52:00.001-06:002020-12-03T20:52:46.482-06:00No Words<p> I love words, and I've had many lately. But for this time in life, they have been just for me; so I have not shared publicly. </p><p>For years, I have included a Christmas letter with our Christmas card. For a few years, Addi wrote it and did a wonderful job. When I sat down to write the letter this year, I had decided to try to share positives from 2020; because 2020 has been A LOT!!!! As I started writing some of the positive things that have come out of this weird, sad, crazy, scary year; I quickly decided to abort the letter writing. For everything I was going to write, that I saw as a positive, I knew there would be many that might be affected in a negative way. My first positive was the extra family time we had during quarantine, but when I started to write about things we did; I immediately thought of those who have suffered loss of family through isolation, separation and death. So my letter writing was abandoned. </p><p>I have been able to write Christmas letters in some of my hardest and saddest times, because I am very intentional on gratitude and finding things to be grateful for. I'm not really a glass half empty or a glass half full kinda gal, but more of a "Why didn't someone put this glass away?" kinda gal. 😜 But this year is different. Writing about the good things I've seen as a result of this pandemic didn't seem appropriate at all. It didn't feel genuine, not because it isn't....I have seen a lot of good....but because I have also seen so much of other people's pain. Living during this pandemic hasn't been difficult for me, but it has been so much more difficult for others. The overwhelming amount of people who have suffered financially, physically, mentally, spiritually and had their hearts broken wide open is daunting and astronomical. Sometimes no words are the appropriate response and this year is one of those times. </p><p><br /></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-73812367325342028202020-10-12T11:08:00.001-05:002020-10-12T11:08:36.648-05:00Thinking Out Loud: A Blip in Time!<p> So it's been a minute, since I've written a post that wasn't a birthday post. I usually write every day. It is my therapy, but lately I've been quiet here, in my journal, my book, everywhere except in my head and my own thoughts (and occasionally on instagram stories 😐). There has been a lot going on....in my personal life, as well as, the world. Obviously if you are coherent and old enough to understand (although I rarely understand, and I'm 53), you already know this. </p><p>As for the world, it's an election year; and that's really all I need to say about that part, except that I will also add...WHAT THE HECK? In addition to it being an election year, there have been countless tragic, life changing things going on in the world for people. I won't get into it all, because to be honest...it is a lot, and I don't think I could adequately describe what people are suffering through. I've been trying to educate myself more and be intentional with my thoughts and approach. I don't think I can "sum up" what others are experiencing in one post and especially without talking to people first hand and walking in their shoes. Also I am not a confrontational person AT ALL....Hello Enneagram 2 with a 3 wing....so this has played a huge role in my silence as well. </p><p>The one thing I can speak on is pandemic, because I think it would be reasonable to say 99% of the world's population has been affected by Covid-19 in some way or another. When we were first quarantined back in March, Neil and I were discussing how we were sure we would probably know someone who got sick. At the time, I thought it may be a handful of people. Seven months later, and it has been so many more. Some have lost their own lives, and some have lost people they love dearly to the virus....directly and indirectly. The mental health of so many has been affected. I've been struggling and so many others I know are as well. One of Elli's classmates took his own life early in the school year....he was thirteen. I have cried all my tears for this boy and his family. I cannot imagine that pain.</p><p>In my own personal world, I moved into a teaching position from a teacher's assistant position this year. This has been so HARD!!! The work itself is A LOT, but the hardest part is seeing so many of our students suffering due to pandemic. Many of my students are failing. They are not showing up for school at all. These are good good kids who cannot do school remotely. They are too overwhelmed, they cannot understand it, they don't have working technology, they have to work to help their families survive, or they are at home watching younger siblings and helping them with school while their parents work. I lay awake at night thinking about what to do for them.</p><p>I've read a few posts on instagram that I can relate to 100%. I don't really read Facebook anymore, because 😳😡😢😲!!! This morning I read these words that Brooke White posted. They were written by David Brooks, "Many of our society's great problems flow from people not feeling seen and known...this is a core trait that we all have to get better at, and that is the trait of seeing each other deeply and being deeply seen". I feel seen about a smidgen of the time. Granted some of this is by design, but a lot of it is my reality. The other post I read was written by Sarah Nicole Landry, and it said this: " Do you miss it? Life before? I do. I think I discover another thing I miss every day. I know we are supposed to always find ways to be grateful and stay positive. But for me, this is how I do that. By acknowledging. Processing. Understanding. To say: I miss it, life before. And I'm grateful for what we have now, too. I think it's ok to miss it. To say it out loud. To be selfish with our true feelings. Or even just to acknowledge that they're there, amidst the understanding of how lucky we are too...." I miss it. Life before. I want my girls to go line dancing and have movie nights and YOUTH group at church IN PERSON!!! I want them to have homecoming, winter formal and Halloween dances. I want them to go to college in the building, have coffee dates and dinner dates. I want Cal to go to work, play baseball and have special olympics. I miss concerts and restaurants and traveling. I miss retreats, church, date nights and watching some of my people in praise band. I miss it!! I miss HUGS!!! A LOT!!!! I miss teaching students in person face to face and being able to walk around the school freely, waving and talking to teachers and kids. But there are also things I appreciate that have come from pandemic: cleaner everything. Honestly, shouldn't stores have been wiping down carts and checkouts long before pandemic? I also appreciate the flexibility remote learning offers...really you can do it from anywhere, and that's awesome too. I appreciate the game nights and walks and baking we did during quarantine. I really appreciated the quiet and lack of traffic in our neighborhood....that was simply grand! But I do miss life before. </p><p> In the grand scheme of our lives, this time will be a blip in time. During this blip, many many things will have occurred: families will grow closer, exercise will increase, pets will be adopted, house improvements will soar; but also, businesses will be lost, relationships will be broken, millions of people will have died, history will be made. Some will survive the blip and come out stronger, some will survive the blip and come out barely hanging on, and some will not survive. </p><p>This is what I've realized: It's okay to miss it....life before....and it's okay to feel gratitude and sorrow at the same time. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and choose quiet. It's okay to have a wide array of feelings and emotions. It's okay to turn off the TV and avoid social media and process the way that works best for you. It's okay to ask for help and to offer it. The world is chaotic and sometimes feels hopeless, and we are part of it. We do the best we can in the best way we can....sometimes that's for a few minutes, a few hours, a few days; then we take a break, but we pick ourselves up and keep going.</p><p><br /></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-49457353479740933312020-09-28T09:44:00.001-05:002020-10-12T09:49:17.419-05:00September 28th...The Best Day of 2003!<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk_CtpK7j7oLdryfFUq4z42XWi9FkSXHy_kU3uepmSYzixDckuIm37lv1fCVO1cpE421IpHPc5aRfUZqZsutBTOAcja_gjN5Csr-d4b-_N76vYBNoZ1aJ3o4U4ppCpQFGzwpFNDew27A8/s720/120490188_10223665458768453_5963504719401409119_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="481" data-original-width="720" height="428" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk_CtpK7j7oLdryfFUq4z42XWi9FkSXHy_kU3uepmSYzixDckuIm37lv1fCVO1cpE421IpHPc5aRfUZqZsutBTOAcja_gjN5Csr-d4b-_N76vYBNoZ1aJ3o4U4ppCpQFGzwpFNDew27A8/w640-h428/120490188_10223665458768453_5963504719401409119_n.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgs3RiP6lj4gcKQspDoA3erPYmGto3ggbhaz4pqQ3G1sDEpnZD2rH9FC8zBQipWApJOjAhBGa1L66bC1jb3XeW7h8fWvZUrpZtBF3Zp_9UHFVguv7wRDsm4ADNBVek8R0eyGebFn4lGeU/s960/120276494_10223665455448370_5984988044250226517_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="634" data-original-width="960" height="422" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgs3RiP6lj4gcKQspDoA3erPYmGto3ggbhaz4pqQ3G1sDEpnZD2rH9FC8zBQipWApJOjAhBGa1L66bC1jb3XeW7h8fWvZUrpZtBF3Zp_9UHFVguv7wRDsm4ADNBVek8R0eyGebFn4lGeU/w640-h422/120276494_10223665455448370_5984988044250226517_n.jpg" width="640" /></a></div></div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFQG287oDdJ9befqhlmMHR4-YRdCM9a3V2CLMkQDmJKyd3O5C6g8ZfRUT5zuo-1e_qnt__0GU8G3iEwotolOoMtECj5kqq2QZOudk5jmpXunc3Vrf9JI9vYdtxt7g-g95FBMNGsTMYong/s960/120230816_10223665457408419_2991042064358237921_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="960" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFQG287oDdJ9befqhlmMHR4-YRdCM9a3V2CLMkQDmJKyd3O5C6g8ZfRUT5zuo-1e_qnt__0GU8G3iEwotolOoMtECj5kqq2QZOudk5jmpXunc3Vrf9JI9vYdtxt7g-g95FBMNGsTMYong/w640-h426/120230816_10223665457408419_2991042064358237921_n.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiom2P9Z3Z438tXX88pzXxm25aDtpA-W16-kraQtFG0HWbeOfi4qOo9oIwExNo5m4YdlM0kuCnxvbWgNq7fEi2cOZu8lDrGutp4wpzXrrbXll33zxotGZVhIX9BSlz7ZTpXKUoR-o-JLPE/s960/120459924_10223665458048435_2432650240634704775_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="960" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiom2P9Z3Z438tXX88pzXxm25aDtpA-W16-kraQtFG0HWbeOfi4qOo9oIwExNo5m4YdlM0kuCnxvbWgNq7fEi2cOZu8lDrGutp4wpzXrrbXll33zxotGZVhIX9BSlz7ZTpXKUoR-o-JLPE/w640-h426/120459924_10223665458048435_2432650240634704775_n.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: medium;">HAPPY SEVENTEEN SPINS AROUND THE SUN BRYNA MAE PAYNE, B-Nut, B-Max! My NICU baby who is now almost 6 feet tall (literally). The girl with the brightest eyes and brightest smile that exude joy! My singing, dancing, theatre loving girl! You are who I wish I was when I was 17, a girl who knows what she wants with a heart for Jesus who is strong in the truth! You’re my extroverted introvert, my go-getter. The one who will still hold my hand, gives me hugs and tells me she loves me every day. The one who easily forgives and forgets! You are a loyal friend who always reaches out to encourage, support and include. I adore you B. You make me better!! Seventeen years sure did go fast, and I am so blessed to have been there very speedy second!</span></span><p></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-50043173925027700872020-09-03T21:04:00.009-05:002020-09-27T21:08:07.439-05:00September 3rd....the best day of 2006!!!<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvmI8e46r7d6cNVN4vvvq6uvtv5ZLBsvJRSVkv-eXgho5YZ7Xhdjkh4jZv6Lu0fqlGPyW5Xq6JwreNrtcN4az3yMXCnv4c2N9-K_K-QiRupN9zM25zL5FoNpzcnpotpQXf5idVByZTzrc/s2048/IMG_1918.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1365" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvmI8e46r7d6cNVN4vvvq6uvtv5ZLBsvJRSVkv-eXgho5YZ7Xhdjkh4jZv6Lu0fqlGPyW5Xq6JwreNrtcN4az3yMXCnv4c2N9-K_K-QiRupN9zM25zL5FoNpzcnpotpQXf5idVByZTzrc/w426-h640/IMG_1918.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsOSkpNX_6dyAE4xsTuf_1inP23m9Az5jg0tO5SfeGucLlURPhVVoOoTQ8DNgcMm_xajghZI1FF2wnu-flR-OywgNYjWdJsDnFbrd1szZeGAMGpuY5xh-X_THs_jLLFEzTIrwyoIioLxM/s2048/IMG_1948+copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1548" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsOSkpNX_6dyAE4xsTuf_1inP23m9Az5jg0tO5SfeGucLlURPhVVoOoTQ8DNgcMm_xajghZI1FF2wnu-flR-OywgNYjWdJsDnFbrd1szZeGAMGpuY5xh-X_THs_jLLFEzTIrwyoIioLxM/w485-h640/IMG_1948+copy.jpg" width="485" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglGcQ6Pk2cIr9On0kxk0g5xUNO2_BR3NRZxVHJdKHiUzHYPxCaKzd3I0JUMMvlSo47t5hpWVeCiqC4Llqib43ho7rPwZMzLAoSp_FQdkZSTxx5fP7gsT_i3mRKSz8aD63ow8CwOShga_c/s2048/IMG_1966bw.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1365" data-original-width="2048" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglGcQ6Pk2cIr9On0kxk0g5xUNO2_BR3NRZxVHJdKHiUzHYPxCaKzd3I0JUMMvlSo47t5hpWVeCiqC4Llqib43ho7rPwZMzLAoSp_FQdkZSTxx5fP7gsT_i3mRKSz8aD63ow8CwOShga_c/w640-h426/IMG_1966bw.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinY80AAaVWuokMM5IULt2X1Fuz3imhLZbBPvnH0oJDUjgDeeocxH7CXeUNhNEHAz4MenzM8HCyfXgu1RM3N2au3mRUXiPOebYvAzjEZ44zqIsQhcezBJ2BENXf1u-G3pijEenjXGWjthc/s2048/IMG_2002.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1365" data-original-width="2048" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinY80AAaVWuokMM5IULt2X1Fuz3imhLZbBPvnH0oJDUjgDeeocxH7CXeUNhNEHAz4MenzM8HCyfXgu1RM3N2au3mRUXiPOebYvAzjEZ44zqIsQhcezBJ2BENXf1u-G3pijEenjXGWjthc/w640-h426/IMG_2002.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjp51oSPzEzpsj20pjTVzi0jTUv_-tm6QPTBLj_RaHMcOmFqCX3Qc7zH0aQ55vyfa7ea96yQ81ZwKNNllNFKgKBcRFT8SQjIoas512mndlRK6f800NnbO0ZxHDg4T1a4BzSHQn1cDVs5b4/s2048/IMG_2031.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1365" data-original-width="2048" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjp51oSPzEzpsj20pjTVzi0jTUv_-tm6QPTBLj_RaHMcOmFqCX3Qc7zH0aQ55vyfa7ea96yQ81ZwKNNllNFKgKBcRFT8SQjIoas512mndlRK6f800NnbO0ZxHDg4T1a4BzSHQn1cDVs5b4/w640-h426/IMG_2031.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;">Happy 14th Birthday Elliot Ann Payne. I CANNOT believe I typed 14. Fourteen sounds sooo much older than 13. You are the best, most wonderful, greatest, super duper favorite surprise and answered prayer I've ever received. I love your sweet sweet face and your sweet sweet soul. I also love having a true blue mini me. You are devoted and thoughtful and all together the loveliest of humans. The tidiest of Paynes, just like her mama, who thrives on organization and order. My book loving, thrift store shopping, guitar playing, dancing, singing creative genius and the funniest person I know. My gentle girl with the voice of an angel, the cutest freckled face and best hair on the planet. The world is a much better place because you're in it, and I'm a better person because of you. You're old soul and love for all the people and all the things is one of my greatest gifts. You keep me grounded in the truth, and I adore you Ellicinderelliwithabellyfullofjelly....and those DIMPLES are the best! </span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a class="oajrlxb2 g5ia77u1 qu0x051f esr5mh6w e9989ue4 r7d6kgcz rq0escxv nhd2j8a9 nc684nl6 p7hjln8o kvgmc6g5 cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x jb3vyjys rz4wbd8a qt6c0cv9 a8nywdso i1ao9s8h esuyzwwr f1sip0of lzcic4wl q66pz984 gpro0wi8 b1v8xokw" href="https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/alwaysmybaby?__eep__=6&__cft__[0]=AZWogNagSKE-ved5iXEFaq3z0fGvh_3V9IjyxbOQkthI7piyEL2C_Yjjan6snpYcFJfGSw4eCO9xEpx4yxo5UBBeue0U5F0mHj-X8275J_Sgov1SwXN81r-DHnvX_Te7EiM&__tn__=*NK-R" role="link" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: var(--accent); cursor: pointer; display: inline; font-family: inherit; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; text-align: inherit; text-decoration: none; touch-action: manipulation;" tabindex="0">#alwaysmybaby</a></span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="background-color: white; caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, ".SFNSText-Regular", sans-serif" style="caret-color: rgb(5, 5, 5); color: #050505; font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a class="oajrlxb2 g5ia77u1 qu0x051f esr5mh6w e9989ue4 r7d6kgcz rq0escxv nhd2j8a9 nc684nl6 p7hjln8o kvgmc6g5 cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x jb3vyjys rz4wbd8a qt6c0cv9 a8nywdso i1ao9s8h esuyzwwr f1sip0of lzcic4wl q66pz984 gpro0wi8 b1v8xokw" href="https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/ellicinderelliwithabellyfullofjelly?__eep__=6&__cft__[0]=AZWogNagSKE-ved5iXEFaq3z0fGvh_3V9IjyxbOQkthI7piyEL2C_Yjjan6snpYcFJfGSw4eCO9xEpx4yxo5UBBeue0U5F0mHj-X8275J_Sgov1SwXN81r-DHnvX_Te7EiM&__tn__=*NK-R" role="link" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: var(--accent); cursor: pointer; display: inline; font-family: inherit; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; text-align: inherit; text-decoration: none; touch-action: manipulation;" tabindex="0">#ellicinderelliwithabellyfullofjelly</a></span><p></p>Loriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14071258218355465718noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884744981844900109.post-57074646395829480472020-06-29T14:18:00.001-05:002020-06-29T14:18:27.975-05:00EMPATHY<div dir="ltr" style="font-family: "bookman old style", "new york", times, serif; font-size: 24px;">
The last week I have been struggling. I couldn't quite put my finger on it (besides the obvious state of chaos and hurt in the world), but then I read a post about being an empath; and things became clear. I have the gift of empathy and have my whole life. Until a few years ago, I wasn't sure what this was and what it meant. I thought I was one of the few (sometimes the only one) who felt people's pain the way I do but turns out there are quite a few of us. For years I believed I was too sensitive, too insecure, too different. Then there came the point in my life when I believed I was too selfish, too weak, too in my own head. After the Oklahoma City Bombing, I read and listened to everything posted about it...everything. Although I had seen and lost people to terrible acts of hate, this is the first time I thought that there was "something wrong with me"; because of the affect it had on me. I didn't know a single person involved in that tragic event, but it affected my physical and mental well being so deeply; and I became severely depressed. It was then that I realized that I needed to take a break from news. I stopped reading the paper or watching the news. I haven't started back with either. There were a few times that I tried, but I could tell the affect it was having on my emotional, mental and physical well being; so I stopped. I have been told that I'm selfish and not doing my part, because I don't "keep up with" what's going on in the world. I've been told that I'm uninformed and uneducated due to this as well. I am none of those things. I take in what I can, and then I must take a break for my own well being, and I have learned that this is okay. It wasn't until someone explained, what being an empath was and that I was definitely one, that I started understanding things about myself better and more accurately. And honestly it wasn't until last week when I read a post from another empath, state it as "having the gift of empathy" that I looked at it as a possible positive something about myself. It may be the most challenging thing that I am learning to embrace about myself, but my negative only views are changing. I read this in a devotion on Sunday which helped validate that unmasking our true feelings is hard but also what we need to do to heal and help others heal. It's from "Be The Bridge" and written by LaTasha Morrison: "American culture teaches us not to sit in sadness and despair. Pretending that everything is okay, though, requires that we mask our true feelings. God doesn't want our masks: He wants all of us, all our emotions, even our sorrow, our despair, and our grief. He wants to wipe every tear from our eyes. And in that closeness, He wants to change us, change our hearts, and send us out to do His work."</div>
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<b> a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.</b></div>
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<b>I also found this: Empaths are highly attuned to other people's moods, good and bad. They feel everything, sometimes to an extreme. They take on negativity such as anger or anxiety, which can be exhausting for them. </b></div>
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I've been in deep thought about all the parts of empathy. Although it may be one of the most challenging parts of myself, especially when the atmosphere surrounding us is in such turmoil, fear, heartache, anger and pain; but I realized that it is also one of the most beautiful parts about myself. As well as feeling someone's sadness and pain, I experience their joy which is a gift that I am given on a very deep deep level. However when things are painful for people, I am constantly trying to reconfigure my thoughts and keep myself from spiraling downwards quickly; because I experience that on a very deep deep level as well. My heart and my mind are in constant action when I'm sitting in someone's pain with them, and it is exhausting; and I have learned that sometimes I need to take a step or two back. To be completely transparent and honest, I have been experiencing anxiety (I am not an anxious person) and am completely overwhelmed. I've read some posts and comments this week which I have felt to my core and have taken very personally whether intended that way or not. I know many people don't realize the impact and consequences words can have on others, and I didn't either for a long time. But I learned first hand on the giving and receiving end, and I try to be very intentional before sharing. And there are still times when someone thinks something I've written or said was directed at/to them when that was not my intention at all. It seems we are all easily offended and bruised lately, so I haven't been writing much for fear of offending someone or hurting feelings. But I am going to get back into it slowly and intentionally and as gently as I can sharing thoughts and messages of love that hopefully have positive affects, because I want to contribute to the light instead of the darkness.</div>
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