Friday, March 24, 2017
I have five children. Although there are times when that feels like a lot of people, in all honesty I don't think five children is a lot. I don't think a family of 7 is ginormous unless you are waiting to use the one tiny downstairs bathroom in the house. If you think about it, five is one more than four and two more than three. Now ten....that's a lot!! When they were all little, it looked like a lot of people when we would go somewhere; and we would get all sorts of comments...some kind, some not. Now that they are big, it looks like I'm hanging out with a bunch of friends and one 10 year old. Yes I know the average cost of raising a child is in the several hundred thousands, yes that's true; so one or two additional may have a profound financial impact. In fact, I know it does. For example, we have never flown anywhere all together. In fact, Addi is the only Payne child who has ever been on a plane. We have a difficult time finding affordable places to stay that allow five children, going out to an "inexpensive" dinner is usually not really that "inexpensive", buying good tennis shoes for five is pricey, compact car is not an option, and I could go on; but there are also other profound impacts of having a house full of children. They always have someone to hang out with, chores can be done much faster, car ride is never boring, they learn so much from each other, lots of stuff to share, many people to laugh with and cry with, but mostly so much love given and received. Of course they don't always get along, but that's true in most families whether there's 2 or 10. One thing I believe is this: if you're thinking about adding another to your family, do it....you may always regret not adding one, but I bet you will never regret it if you do.